Your His Secret Obsession course is AMAZING – one afternoon of solid listening, I’ve put it into practice and the effects are phenomenal! You truly have saved our relationship and, while it is only a week later, we are already going from strength to strength. And we both see a wonderful future ahead of us. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

Best investment ever!!!

Thank you James!
I found reading His Secret Obsession very inspiring in helping me to understand my husband and has help me to overcome many anger issues I have had with him for what he did to me and our marriage 26 years ago.
I have found peace with your readings too and I find all your blogs very helpful and useful.
I will be forever grateful to you for sharing your works with not only me but for all the other wives, girlfriends and women who read your works.
I thank you for saving my marriage!

Your research and advice was invaluable.
My boyfriend has changed from being distant and too busy to see me – and now the opposite is true.
I kept being patient for ages. Then I read the section about not bottling it all up, fuming inside. Instead I told him by text how I felt – in a nice way, full of compliments.
He immediately asked to see me, he couldn’t wait!
We had a lovely time, and I listened well, talked a bit, following your guidance on the power and beauty of silence.
I could write a lot more, but for now, I just want to say thank you, thank you x 100!

I’m 64 years old. Most likely a bit older than most of the people who read this blog (I’m so old I’m not even sure if it’s called a blog!
I was constantly searching for love. I was sure something was wrong with me because I could never find it. I was always falling for the wrong man. I found physical and emotional abusers. If I loved them they didn’t love me. And if they loved me I didn’t love them. Looking back now, I know I stunk of desperation.
And I was looking so hard that I ignored red flags and saw things in men that weren’t really there. I didn’t marry until I was 33 years old. I stayed in a bad marriage longer than I should have —-17 years —- and I’ve been divorced for going on 14 years. It took me until I was 63 years old to find the man I’ve been searching for all of my life and he just asked me to marry him this past Christmas.
Looking back now, I wish I had just relaxed and enjoyed my footloose and fancy free 20’s, instead of struggling so hard to find love and marriage. And I didn’t learn anything from my disastrous marriage. I laid low for more than 10 years, afraid of getting burned again, then fell into the same pattern of desperation, even more fearful than before because I believed I was too old and it was too late for me to ever find love.
Then I discovered this blog. The wise words of James Bauer have been a godsend for me. I finally learned to play it smarter, relaxed and turned it over to God. And guess what! Love found me!
I know this message is long and most people won’t have the patience to read all the way through it. It I hope enough people read this last —-
Be patient. Let go of the desperation. Read this blog. Take the free advice that is given here and maybe even buy a lesson or two. And maybe you’ll find the man you’ve been looking for all of your life. And chances are much better, thanks to the advice given here, you won’t blow it.

Best of luck.

Hi James,
I just wanted to let you know, I used your tip about getting his curiosity going (I told him I learned something about Dumbledore that he would never believe!) and it worked so well! He texted me right back and I asked if he could guess, and we ended up with this great ongoing text with him very curious about what the answer is, and me telling him how what great guesses he was making!

Thank you!

Dear James,
This email came in spot on and just in time to save the day. It is so unbelievably true what you said about indifference and how contagious it could be if care is not taken.
For two days up until I read this email, I hadn’t heard from my boyfriend which is a tad unusual, especially as he is off on Thursday nights through the weekend. Yet, it didn’t seem to bother me seeing as I didn’t even miss him. Then this morning, it dawned on me that he could be feeling as indifferent just as much or even a little bit more than myself since he did not bother calling me. So when I read your email this morning, I was like “That’s it … indifference… ” So I called him thereafter and tried to shake things up a little bit and now he is picking me up after work to spend the night at my place.

Thank you very much, coach. Please keep it comin

I love your notes! I have become a happier, more productive and positive partner with all of the things you have taught me! Thank you!

James, everything you say in your notes makes so much sense. Why don’t we all know this intuitively? I appreciate the coaching up. I’m so glad I saw your ad. Your information has inspired me to strive for the life and relationship I have wanted for so long but did not have the courage to seek.

Thank you!

James,
This may be one of the most meaningful guidances I’ve come across. It is a very worthy exercise. Thank you!

P.S. I still enjoy following you very much!

Wow. That was amazing. I met my ex today and I applied your methods onto him. And omg it worked!!!!!(they made so much sense too) He was really affectionate and apologizing for not treating me better the whole time I was with him!!!! Thank you so much for this article. Also I noticed that you’ve been answering peoples comments on the website helping other women out there. That is super generous of you (of course no pressure, I know you can’t possibly answer EVERYONE) but I just have to say that you seem to genuinely care and want the women to succeed in relationships. So awesome.

Your His Secret Obsession course is AMAZING – one afternoon of solid listening, I’ve put it into practice and the effects are phenomenal! You truly have saved our relationship and, while it is only a week later, we are already going from strength to strength. And we both see a wonderful future ahead of us. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

Best investment ever!!!

Oh.my.gosh it worked. I texted my ex bf (been broken up for 6 months dated just shy of 3 yrs) yesterday morning and he surprised me at night by coming up behind me where he knew I would be and said So what is this question you have? Then he took me out to dinner/drinks.